Thursday, February 11, 2010

Destiny on Pause: Seeking to Marry A Fantasy



Fantasy: An unrealistic or improbable supposition (belief). Apparition, fabrication, hallucination, figment, or illusion.

Over the years I have spoken to many single men in regards to marriage. I have consistently heard them refer to “outer beauty” as one of their main priorities in regards to choosing a spouse. I have often wondered “what if God used externals (i.e. subjective beauty) to decide whether or not he would make a covenant with someone?” What if God decided that he would only make a covenant with people who weighed a certain amount, who had a certain length of hair, a certain eye color, or a certain skin complexion? We would consider this to be ungodly and unrighteous.

Hypocrisy is a 2-way street. Should those who are seeking to be married God’s way use externals as a measuring stick (deciding factor), in regards to deciding who they will or will not marry? Many people’s destinies are on pause (delay) because they desire a fantasy. If God does not use externals as a requirement for divine covenant when it comes to us, then should we here on Earth allow externals to be a deciding factor in regards to us being married? How many destinies are on delay, because of those who refuse to relinquish their false paradigm of beauty?

1 comment:

Cassandra ATL said...

Hello Brother Scott I agree but disagree this time about the post. I understand that we shouldn't marry because of the outer appearance of the individual you are courting. But honestly the outer appearance is the first thing that will grasp the seeker's attention in regards to approaching you and asking you out on a date. I have noticed men approaching me stating I have a beautiful smile or pretty hair. It's hard for someone to state you have a good spirit unless they have gotten to know you first.
However I do not agree if someone makes a final decision to get married still basing it on the outer appearance. Therefore they have not grown to know the person on a personal or spiritual level. Great post, as always something to think about.